A journal of healing

My questions for today are: Is it possible for women to have a conversation and not talk about diets? Would it be possible for restaurants to consider that not everyone eats meat or tomato sauce? Why is it so hard to stay on your diet when away?

We just came back from vacation. It was a lovely trip to our favorite place in the 1000 Islands. We go every year at least twice. We do not really have cooking facilities in the room we are in. So we are required to either get take out or eat out. Actually, that is part of the beauty of the trip. Usually, we buy snacks for the room also. Now that I am required to watch what I eat, we limited the snacks. But I did buy a bag of Fritos and I had my favorite River Rat cheese. (I did end up feeding the Fritos to the geese and other animals there.) We ate cold cereal for breakfast in the room every morning. I don’t normally eat cold cereal. In the past I have brought an electric kettle so I could make oatmeal, but that is now only allowed on a limited amount on my renal diet. Cold cereal was the only option for this trip. Not a good thing.

Every morning, people around the world pour a bowl of sugary carbs and cover it with milk. For me, the carbs in the morning are really bad. My sugar elevates at the middle of the night, instead of coming down like most people and then by mid-day, it is in a normal range. I use long acting insulin with a bigger dose at night and a smaller one first thing in the am. I do not take insulin the rest of the day. When I ate cereal, my reading never came down and my overall sugar stayed pretty high. On top of that, milk has sugar as well as phosphorous and potassium which is not good for the kidneys.

When we were shopping at the store, it was hard to find any for breakfast that would have been a good substitute. We did buy some dark homemade bread at a shop and lite butter Again, bread is high in carbs. Forget about croissants, or god-for-bid donuts. I do not ever eat donuts.

I wonder if eating cereal as kids is a contributor to having diabetes as an adult. At home, I never eat cereal. I scramble two egg whites and one whole egg and sometimes add pre-cooked veggies. I have very low cholesterol so this is not an issue. My solution for our next trip was to buy a small egg cooker.

The other big problem was eating out. The place we stay has a wonderful restaurant with a fabulous salad bar. The first two nights they had a buffet. BIG MISTAKE. Even though I thought I was being judicious, I over ate. I skipped the buffet the rest of the trip. Two nights they had all you could eat pasta. It was cheaper to buy that dinner than the salad bar alone. I had pasta with alfredo sauce on the side. Yummy…but terrible for me. But, I was on vacation and in my head I justified it. We had other meals when the restaurant was closed and I tried to pick something with no red sauce and only chicken. I ate more chicken that week than I did all summer. A couple of times I only ordered salad but they came with chicken. It is almost impossible to find renal friendly meals in restaurants. If it doesn’t have pasta it has potatoes. Ordering a side of let’s say just broccoli is not a good option often because the broccoli is usually frozen and mush.

I had labs done the week we came back and my numbers were terrible….. well, I thought they were. My nephrologist said they were not that awful and to stop worrying. I already lost the five pounds I gained, and my glucose readings have come back down. But it did frighten me when I saw my GFR dropped two points. My goal is to get that back up.

Last night we went to a function at a restaurant. Again, it was a buffet. But they had big bowls of salad on the table. I was planning on having salad since they buffet was not renal friendly at all. I did pick though the broccoli and pasta and took just broccoli and had a small piece of really bad chicken French. The rest of the buffet was pasta in red sauce, veal parmesan, and roast beef. I filled my salad plate when I went up to the buffet and when I got back to the table; they had taken the big bowl of salad away. I was really mad. So for $40.00, I had the worse meal.

The function was for my hubby’s 50th school reunion. I knew no one there at all. I went to support him. After dinner, people were milling around and several people came and chatted with us….him. One other wife and I struck up a conversation as the men were chatting. We talked about what we were doing in our resent retirements. The topic never came close to diets until I mentioned cleaning out closets. Then she somehow got on a track about weight.

I don’t know if it is a female thing or because I am a large woman that people feel that have to talk about weight and diets with me. She started down a path of how as she aged she put weight on….. Truthfully, I don’t remember all that she was saying in detail as I tuned her out. I finally looked at her said, “I have been large all my life. Now excuse me, I need to go to the ladies room.”

Why do women NEED to justify their bodies? Also, why do women have to explain when they are at a dinner why they are eating what they are eating? My thinking is, “shut up and enjoy yourself. I don’t care what you eat and I certainly do not want your guilt or judgement.

No one ever said to my rather large husband, “gee… I put on weight as I got older.” If anything a male conversation last night would have been would be more about lamenting about hair loss. I did hear that once with one guy who was talking to my husband. His hair was almost gone but my hubby has a full head of hair. Both of them just laughed.

 

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